Post by masterofdisaster19 on Oct 11, 2008 15:34:00 GMT -5
Well, here it goes.
A couple of weeks ago I went out to the bars with a friend. It's such a rare thing that I go out for drinks that I guess I got a little carried away. I don't really remember how much I drank, but we split a few pitchers of bud. I remember laughing a lot, lighting up this obnoxiously huge cigar I had bought, going around talking to people at all the tables, and apparently at some point I started telling made up stories to everyone about how my friend who was with me was a war hero.
I think at the time I saw it as just kind of razzing him. Embarassing him a little. I figured he'd just tell me to shut up and that would be it. But apparently I never did shut up. I remember telling a table full of women that he had "pulled my ass out of the muck and carried me on his back to safety" (he's about 5 inches shorter and 60 pounds lighter than me). I also remember exhaling a bunch of cigar smoke monsters around a table full of nonsmokers while pretending to play pool, and they actually left the bar.
I think at some point I was making out with a strange woman I don't really remember much about at all...
Point is, I regret all my actions and feel terrible about them... I think in part it's just this depression and anxiety that has been building up in me for a long, long time...
But the main problem was the "war hero" thing. My friend hasn't spoken to me at all since that happened. He's been my best friend for 5 years. What you should know about him is that he used to want to be a war hero. He wanted to be in the military his whole life, but was never in shape enough. He could never get his act together. I wasn't really trying to reference that or insult him on a personal level. I was just letting off steam acting like a drunken buffoon, which I know I shouldn't have done, but it wasn't a personal insult.
To complicate things, I've been essentially unemployed for about a month, and I'm out of money. I had one job interview, one solid opportunity, and I listed this friend as a reference on the application before this night occured.
Turns out he told them on the phone that I couldn't be trusted with company equipment and couldn't be punctual. Well, I felt like I had no choice - he's got a good stable job and I haven't been making enough money even for food... So, regrettably I felt I had no choice but to lie. I made up a story about how he made a homosexual advance toward me, I rejected him, and he was miffed about it, and that's why he said those things in the reference call. They believed it, and I got the job.
But I'm still out a friend. And I don't know what to tell the guy. I don't think there's any way to apologize, and at the same time I feel like what he did later might have been even worse than what I did.
I just feel awful about the whole thing. Does anyone have advice for what to do?
A couple of weeks ago I went out to the bars with a friend. It's such a rare thing that I go out for drinks that I guess I got a little carried away. I don't really remember how much I drank, but we split a few pitchers of bud. I remember laughing a lot, lighting up this obnoxiously huge cigar I had bought, going around talking to people at all the tables, and apparently at some point I started telling made up stories to everyone about how my friend who was with me was a war hero.
I think at the time I saw it as just kind of razzing him. Embarassing him a little. I figured he'd just tell me to shut up and that would be it. But apparently I never did shut up. I remember telling a table full of women that he had "pulled my ass out of the muck and carried me on his back to safety" (he's about 5 inches shorter and 60 pounds lighter than me). I also remember exhaling a bunch of cigar smoke monsters around a table full of nonsmokers while pretending to play pool, and they actually left the bar.
I think at some point I was making out with a strange woman I don't really remember much about at all...
Point is, I regret all my actions and feel terrible about them... I think in part it's just this depression and anxiety that has been building up in me for a long, long time...
But the main problem was the "war hero" thing. My friend hasn't spoken to me at all since that happened. He's been my best friend for 5 years. What you should know about him is that he used to want to be a war hero. He wanted to be in the military his whole life, but was never in shape enough. He could never get his act together. I wasn't really trying to reference that or insult him on a personal level. I was just letting off steam acting like a drunken buffoon, which I know I shouldn't have done, but it wasn't a personal insult.
To complicate things, I've been essentially unemployed for about a month, and I'm out of money. I had one job interview, one solid opportunity, and I listed this friend as a reference on the application before this night occured.
Turns out he told them on the phone that I couldn't be trusted with company equipment and couldn't be punctual. Well, I felt like I had no choice - he's got a good stable job and I haven't been making enough money even for food... So, regrettably I felt I had no choice but to lie. I made up a story about how he made a homosexual advance toward me, I rejected him, and he was miffed about it, and that's why he said those things in the reference call. They believed it, and I got the job.
But I'm still out a friend. And I don't know what to tell the guy. I don't think there's any way to apologize, and at the same time I feel like what he did later might have been even worse than what I did.
I just feel awful about the whole thing. Does anyone have advice for what to do?
